So here’s some helpful ways to break your own pattern:

1.Take a moment and think about what you’re most anxiousabout. Is it approaching? Is it showing sexual interest? Is itasking a girl out? Is it the first kiss? 

2.Now write down your pattern with it. So for instance, “Callingwomen, pattern is apathy,” or “Approaching women, pattern isblame game.” 

3.Now, create a goal for yourself, for instance, “Call everyphone number I get, no matter how much I don’t care.” Writeit down.

4.Tell a friend or a buddy what you plan on doing and ask him tokeep you accountable.

That last item is important. Sharing your fears and having someonekeep you accountable is integral to this whole process and makes it10 times easier. Even the very act of sharing your fear with someonewho can empathize and understand goes a long way to relieving thepressure.