Do you remember the shy kid who gets the girl in teen movies? Sixteen Candles is a classic example.
The real world is different – the main character in that movie would never get a girlfriend at his high
school. Every time you see a TV show or movie in which a male character asks a woman “so… um…
would you like to… you know… go out with me on Saturday?” and she says yes, remind yourself that
this is fiction. In real life, being shy and nervous – no matter how cute or how much the tortured artist
you think you are being – is a terrible way to make a woman attracted to you.